lady gaga, anyone?

wow! or should i cite it as "Ouch!". it has been four moon since the last time i write my web-log entry. (trying to express my guilt - so it can be an excuse - to make me believe that I'm getting better-as usual-which is not so true). like million of us procrastinating has infected our intestine, it cannot be removed because once we remove it, the pleasure of eating wouldn't have been the same, so we ought to keep it, just to satisfy our hallucination of how "good feeling" should be . The motivation to write this entry come while I'm writing other thing (which should have been complete by my last entry) which means that I've been putting off doing something (other word for procrastinate) in order to write this.. thats my dear reader, is how bad it is to me. Or may be this is my strategy of getting things done. So i need to have important task, and delayed it to make other things done. ouch..

enough with the dramatical intro. I've recently read an article written by Dr. Piers Steel, an organizational-industrial psychologist. He was comparing two types of motivational wisdom. One is from Rhonda Byrne the author of the 190 weeks listed in the New York Times Bestseller : The Secret (I've watched the documentary - it does save a lot of my time, so i can procrastinate it) and the other one is world most controversial artist - Lady Gaga.

Let me introduce you to the wisdom they both offer. If you have come across the knowledge of law of attraction, you might have an idea about Byrne works. Her theory is that whatever happen to you, it is because it is what you wished for. If you always think about debt, debt, debt, out of the solution, what you'll find - according to her - is more debt! same goes for the other things. so if you want to be let's say, rich, all you need to do is to be more specific about what you want, imagine it vividly, cut some picture if you have to and put it on the ceiling on your bed, so you'll see it every time you woke up in the morning or maybe at night when you have those creepy poor nightmare. And then, after some period of time, a month, a year, 10 years or may be 20, wallah! you'll find what you wished for at your disposal. just like that.

Now about the lady, this is her quotes "That's good that you won a lot of trophies, it's nice, but you know what? After I sell a bunch of records, I take all the platinum ones off the walls and pretend I haven't sold a damn one and I've got to go do it all again." yeah, controversial as she is, as Dr. Steel mention in his article. "she suggests that images of success (e.g., trophies) can take the place of actual successes (i.e., more victories). So instead of going out and making it happen, we reflect on past or imagined glory and do nothing. The symbol replaces the reality".

Now, how many of us or our colleague has been through this? we strive for something and when we got it, we lost our motivation and after a while we are back to square one. as an example, how many of us is doing all we can to collect money to fund our wedding because our saving is far from enough because we never had enough money to save. But somehow in few month we manage to get it! a sum that we never thought we can get. But what happen after that? some of us is going back to the old -i didn't have enough money to save-life. i heard some of my friend says this. some of my friend heard me saying this. :D If you are a Gaga fans, you'll need to put your wife somewhere that you couldn't find and act as if you never get married and repeat the process. hehehe..

So which one is your choice? let me offer my analysis.

according to Dr. steel, in a study conduct by Gabrielle Oettingen of New York University on the power of fantasy on everything including romance life and getting a job. This study involving 3 groups, A fantasy group (Byrne group), A control group (most of us group) and a Mental contrasting group (the GAGA group). The finding is interesting. They find that the GAGA group do best in life compared to the secret group. In fact, the secret group do worse than the control group!

eh? this is not my analysis! o.k here's mine. Using the theory of the secret, as a Muslims, i believe that most of our fate is predetermined by Allah. But we do have some rooms to make change as Allah cited in the holy Quran " Allah wouldn't change the fate of one race, until they changed it themselves." which means that Allah do gave us some space to make changes, so it is definitely wrong to say that once poor, forever will be. And listening to Dr. Hj. Fadhilah Kamsah's motivational CD's, he always remind the listener to have a good thought to Allah. Because Allah will give us, what we think He will give us. E.g, when a mom keep saying in her mind that her son is bad, that is what she will get. a bad son. I do have some experience about this. last year my wife suggested that i bought an MPV that was sold by her colleague that going abroad. i didn't take the suggestion seriously because it wasn't in my agenda of the year. But the idea is there. since then i do admire it, look at it every time i see it on road, imagine how it would look like if i decide to make it more personal. sometime i include it in my conversation saying that if have more "rezeki", i'm going to buy that MPV. it'll be convenient for my family. A year later, without having any idea's on how could i afford it at first, it become mine. And last week i rammed it onto a pedestrian buffalo that didn't use the zebra crossing. Maybe they're looking for a buffalo crossing but couldn't find it anywhere.. hehehe.. so its a combination of a fantasy (of getting the car) and God's will. (I do imaging that I'm going to crash into something before the actual crash. this is the second time the exact same thing happen to me before the accident - maybe that's how powerful fantasy or maybe coincidence might be).

to be continued....

Selangor Challenge

Hari ni nak cakap melayu je.. penat pasal baru balik kayuh basikal sejauh kira-kira 40 km di kuang sempena Selangor Challenge MTB Jamboree.. x larat nak cari ayat canggih - canggih (heh!) Kali kedua join jamboree, kali pertama jumpe trek se"adventure" ini, 2 kali putus rantai, sekali bocor, 2 kali kejang, berkali kali putus asa, bile menyesal je - jarak nak patah balik sama jauh dengan jarak nak abiskan kayuhan. walaupun rasenye dia tak bace blog ni, tapi saye nak berterima kasih kepada atok (pangkat dalam family, orang jawa mmg pentingkan susur galur ni. tapi mude je lagi) saye Abdul Qayyum Bin Hassan kerana sudi menghabiskan perlumbaan di tempat pertama dari belakang kerana membantu saya membaiki basikal. (repair basikal je dah ambik mase lebih kurang 15 minit, kali aje la dengan 3) Dan jugak memberi semangat untuk menghabiskan kayuhan.

Cabaran? bile dah banyak kali rosak, bak kate orang memude, mental pon dah pecah.. bile x de orang nak di jadikan pengukur, nak tengok had sebenar yang orang sebenarnya mampu lakukan.. mmg perjalanan terase makin mencabar (bahase mudahnye, bile kite tgk orang boleh, kite pon tercabar jugak, nak cube jugak kayuh). tapi akhirnya, tinggal kitorang berdua je, sweeper sibuk suh naik lori.. tapi mane boleh.. air muke kene jage.. (kalau ruzairi bace: bior kaki sakit krem banyak kali jangan sampai hati sakit kene kutuk ngan ko.. hehehe)

masa mula kayuh, mmg dah agak kedepan. sampai km10 - rantai putus. sebelum putus tu dok kate dalam hati :"musuh sebenar ialah diri sendiri, mesti kalahkan diri sendiri (yang nak berputus asa tu lah). so, kayuh la bagai nak gile, siap buat latihan mindfulness lagi (yang ni kite cerite lain kali) tapi bile dah macam2 jadi, cuaca pon dah panas.. lain pulak jadinye. hehehe..

Secara keseluruhannye, kayuhan kali ni memang berbaloi, bukan hadiahnya tapi pengalamannya. pemenang tempat pertama sampai dalam masa tak sampai satu jam (purata orang sampai dalam masa 2 jam). tapi tak la mencabar untuk dia, pasal mmg dah dia terer.. tapi untuk kitorang berdua perghhh...

Jadinya, pada jamboree yang mendatang, benih azam sudah ditanam, bior tumbuh dan bercambah. Latihan demi latihan dah di rencana, semoga dapat mencapai kedudukan 10% teratas.. aminn

Promosi?

Ramai yang dah nampak gambar saya masuk radio Malaysia kelantan, ramai yang bertanya dan tertanya2.. apa kezadahnya (haeam zadah ialah bahasa urdhu.. haram jadah tak tau la mane usal usulnya)yang dibuat oleh budak didi ni masuk dalam konti, ade yang ingat saya dah tuka keje, ade yang ingat saya seorang tokoh MLM yang berjaya (HAHAHA!!), secara langsung atau tidak, cepat @ lambat, berita mengenai saya menjalankan training telah tersebar luas.. ada yang dah offer untuk buat training (bos aku je pon.. hehe).. sudahkah saya bersedia untuk ke peringkat seterusnya? jeng jeng jeng.......

Buruk @ baik, baik @ buruk perkara ini belum tahu lagi, apa2 pun perubahan dah mula terasa pada diri sendiri.. menjadi lebih bijak mengawal emosi dan yang penting, persepsi.. ada yang menjuih bibir.. heh! ye la tu! hakikatnya kalau orang kata sekarang saya ni teruk.. diorang tak jumpa saya 5 tahun lepas.. hahaha.. ingat sendiri2, sendiri mau ingat.. badan sendiri, sendiri yang tahu.. bagi saya sekarang apa yang penting bukan sahaja persepsi sendiri, tetapi persepsi orang lain dan bagaimana mengawalnya... pengawalnya ialah pemimpin terbilang.. pemimpin paling terbilang, Nabi Muhammad S.A.W...

Salah satu teknik dalam NLP ialah mengenali konteks, dan modelling.. tak salah rasanya untuk gunakannya bagi mengenali Rasulullah S.A.W.. jadi ini adalah matlamat terbaru dalam program saya yang akan datang.. NLP + CBT + Sunnah Nabi Muhammad S.A.W.. semoga saya akan berjumpa dengan guru yang terbaik.. insyaAllah..

Tahniah!!

Tahniah kepada diri saya sendiri dan jugak untuk wife tercinta, Azizah Bt. Othman kerana berjaya menamatkan course 3 hari kepada guru2 Pemulihan Dalam Komuniti (PDK) di kelantan. Ini adalah 3 hari penuh ujipandu kerjaya impian saya sebagai trainer.. seperti yang dijangkakan, saya belajar lebih banyak daripada course ini daripada peserta... ?(hahaha.. mendalam nih)..

Dan hari ini saya bernekad untuk menggunakan dengan segera pengajaran yang saya dapati dengan cara membuat modul NLP untuk course 2 hari penuh.. chayok!!

Sports, at last..

About a year ago, i was wondering why is that that I'm not as good as any other guys when compared in sports activities.. what does these guys have that give them access to almost to any type of sports available on earth.. even if they are not used to it before. While this thinking goes on and on, i committing myself to be good in playing carom as it is the most available games in my workplace.. after a while I'm getting good at it.. i even developing some personal shooting techniques that some of my colleague's reckon it as my "blagak" shot. After a while i become a good player from nothing! for those who not used to plating this game "kedai kopi" style, i tell you that it is the most painful place to start, we are yelling, cursing, de-motivating and bragging to each other. For those with weak heart, a small fight is irresistible.. and it least likely for those weak hearted fellas to comeback to the battleground ( i make it sound good isn't it.. ha ha).

3 days ago my colleage and i was introduce to a game called "pentanque" and we have to get ready for a tournament in 2 days time! so I've got the chance to test my old theory that i cant be good in sport like other guys did, because those sport-friendly guys and i is now on par. For two days we do intensive training in this very fun game. throwing these RM 650 stainless steel balls to a small balls they call jack to get as close to it as possible, and believe me its not as easy as it sound. each of us only got three balls and we need to risk it sometimes to clear the opponent's balls. On the tournament dayw e manage to go to second round before the school boys (they represent the school in this game) defeat us.. very thin winning that is.. i can see they sweating like crazy when we catch up with them so quickly. Now, what i found was.. these sport guys is no better than me is term of understanding and playing the game. Sometimes i notice that i can make better shot then them.. so what is making them better?

its our state.. sometimes we take outside information, yelling, cursing, DE-motivating and bragging too personally that we make it real for us. Its the psychology inside us. its our physiology that affect us. when we operate in weak physiology then we'll be as good as weak! its what we are focusing on that 's matter.. are we focusing on the game, or the cursing? its our internal voice... its all because of us.. and yet we continue to blame the environment....

Unleash the power within!

The price of a procastination

several years ago.. (at least it seems that long) i was forced to have multiple bank account for my salary purpose. One of it has an ATM card while the other don't. That's mean that i need to go to the bank and transfer the money from one account to the other in order to have the freedom of using the ATM card. And its really a hassle. So i decide to use online banking. and it took me 2 years or so to create the account. That mean that in 2 years i had to Que to transfer the money, another 2 Que to pay the bills (one for celcom and one for the rest of it) that is equal to approx. 3 hours per month, which means that i had wasted around 72 hours of my life by queuing.. just for the sake of procrastinating.

Now lets count that into something else. if i want to read a full English book, it'll take me around 10 hours to finish it. =72/10 = 7.2. if i had read 7.2 book of hypnotism, i might have the skill to make rapid induction by now. If i can make RM 25 sales per hours, i should have 72*20= Rm 1800.. hmm.. that should be enough to repaint by car.. or if i put it into a fixed deposit with 7% profit (Islamic), i will have extra RM 252.. and the list will go on and on..

To create an account took me around 5-10 minutes. Procrastinating it, make me lost so many.. and that is just a small area of my life.. just imagine what will happen if i take care of myself and take control of my life.. deciding on some thing good and directly applying it... continuously.. hmmm.. i suspect that the future will be a lot better than now..

evolution

Honestly, its not the title that i want to put in the first place.. but i cant remember the real one that popped up while I'm driving just now. I think I'm gonna start with Darwin's theory that i honestly don't believe like.... at all. Its just against Islam and can be debated academically and off course, @ kedai kopi. The question is, why does man stop evolving? why didn't we grow our self a pair of wings so that we don't have to pay Tony Fernandez our hard earned greens? for me the answer is simple. The theory is a bullshit!.. (ha ha.. this really sounds extreme when i re-read it.)

what I'm trying to express is that i really think that human has somehow stop evolving in terms of knowledge. Remember the name Ibn. Sina, Alexander Graham Bell, Thomas Elva Edison and other inventors. I feel like there's no new findings in this world. Everything that we have is only a continued research over the old findings. There's no more wright brothers that want to invent something like... oh.. i thinks we already had everything....!!!!

Many people are blaming something or somebody for their failure to move forward. People says something like " I'll never be successful because this and that." Buts lets think it over. What do we lacking of in this century.. we already have all the advantages we need to be successful compared to 100 years ago. Some people are making success and some people keep saying that they're lacking something foe success.. lets think of this. who is determining our success? who is dictating our success?... yes.. the answer is our self. Not the prime minister (but please choose the right one so we can think of something else after we elect rather than waiting impatiently for another election), not our mum, not our friend.. although they can be advantage (or even disadvantage) they are not the prime factors.

Remember this, whatever that you do, you can do it better (Anthony Robbins).. its never the matter what is happening outside, but its what happening inside you!

another GREAT things come

It has been almost 3 years since i worked on something big. Last time it was when i struggle to make 2k sales in one month in order to attain my Agency manager title. And i actually make more! that's amazing for me considering that I'm doing it part time and with a very tight working hour. At that time i was making a "nazar" that is to fast until i get my title. And it took me more than a month to accomplish that. With my latest training in NLP, now i know how things work. When we push our self correctly, telling our subconscious mind (by fasting-when i think of food, i remember my goal) continuously.. then all we can see, is chance! there is chance everywhere if we want to look for it.

there's a quote from a book " there's gold everywhere, but only a trained eyes that can see it". but sometimes there's people that is well train but didn't see it simply because they don't want to see it!

chance.

After the NLP seminar, all i want to do is train people in NLP. To help them increase their choice and gain more control in whatever they want. Focusing deeply on this dream has in proven worthy for me that now i have a chance to do a crash course training on this subject. I don't know how its going to be. But I'm trying my best to give the best for the best of the best.. BEST GILER!!

here goes the future anthony robbins.. hahaha

I'm proud to be stupid v.2.0

There are many kind of people, in education, there are people like those C.E.O of ultra-hyper-mega (U-H-M)company which own great education and high creativity, people like the worker of the U-H-M-company which have education, skill and a lot of disciplines to follow the dont-be-creative s.o.p or k.p.i from their peer, and there are owner of U-H-M company like Bill Gates which the education is mostly based on creativity and make more error to make more success education. (After all,where do you think the knowledge of light bulb came from?)

There are so many knowledge available in this universe, and there are so many way to learn, why do we need to stick only to one kind of education? even though its what most people reckon, it doesn't mean that it suit us for good, at all... yup, it is the basic knowledge and we need it to further our learning to a higher level. But for me, higher level is mine to determine. Its mine to accredit it. But don't take me wrong, I'm not against conventional education. Its yours to choose, or better, combined.

For this log is meant for them who no longer can accept formal education, or too old to enjoyed it. what i'm trying to express is that we always can be stupid in one side and be brilliant or even genius in the other side. Our goal will determined what should we acquire most. Don't stop, don't quit, don't give up, there will always be hope, as long as you dont stop hoping. Knowledge is Allah's. He can give anything that he want to. lets pray to be better in everything good.. Bismillah.....

Moving Forward

When the tots of money lingering around this gray matter 24-7, many issues arise with it. when i was starting my MLM (CNI) Business, reading books about investment and money making, many tought that this is my day dream.. but, hey! every success start from a dream right.. its the guts that put it into place.. With Allah will's, of course.

Its not greed or the love of money that forcing me to do this. its more about thinking forward and forecasting my future (kind of fundamental & technical analysis - not fortune telling). its only the matter of time that will turn my fear into reality. Mak, Ayah cik, Ayah, Ibu, Acik, Pak Lang, And my Siblings will grow older.. the only person that they can count on in the one that already count on them the most.. ME! Thats why eventough i love impreza, it doesnt trigger the desire to have it so much.. its them, the cause that closest in my heart that kick the logic in and lit the desire for a financial freedom. (eventough they never encourage me to do so.. (its the definition of risk that trigger their fear) haha)...

Some of my friend encourge me to further my study so i can a rise in salary or a better job.. now, who is the one that are dreaming.. For my goal is far than a pay rise or a better job.. its to be the extraordinary 2% that i dream of. yes, i know that it is too far, but theres a saying that goes " shoot for the star, if u dont reached it at least u landed on moon"

while the goal is clear, the path didnt.. to BE it, i need to have different tots, different things to do, different logics, different knowledge, different guts, different pals and dudes.. the going is getting harder when everyone is pulling me out from reaching my goal.. but then its not their fault.. its their knowledge that reflect what they're doing. its not their job to make me rich.. its time for me to mind my own business..

To my fiance, the path that i choose is never going to be easy, there will be sweat and blood.. i'll going to protect you from the bad, i hope that u will always be on my side.. giving me the spirit, like u always do' to move on.. and keep going.. i love u dear..

Action beats inaction

really understand this word.. but i really wish it is as simple and easy as it sounds.. to implement it, i had ruled down some dicilipline to be done everyday.

1. Wake up as early as we could without feeling sleepy in daytime but not later than 6.30.
2. solat and do some slow cardiavascular evercise just to increase metabolism and increasing the volume of oxygen entering our brain to start it up.
3. read our mission/target for 1. our life/death 2. the year 3. the month 4. the day
4. start to think as wise as james bond/McGuyver
5. ready 3..2..1.. Action!

p/s: having a daily planner is great if utilised its function to the fullest.

notes: to have a great life, we need to be great first.. so lets upgrade ourself.. download any usefull skills.. be the best!

a Dartfull of wisdom 2

continued....

So, do we really need to choose? try this..

determine:

1. what level of education do you have?
2. how much is your savings?
3. how healthy is your pocket? is it eagerly waiting for more money or craving for some?
4. are you happy?
5. are you enjoy your life?
6. do you LIVE LOUD enough?

Why do we need to answer all this, u ask me? well because the answer is the reflection of what we had choosen (or not) in the past. if we only had a diploma with 2.0 CGPA (ehem ehem..) it becase we did not choose to have 4.0! dont believe it? ask me.. ill tell u its true even if you put a gun on my neck.. haha..

Now, if we had just realised what we had neglected, its time for us to take a step back, relax, take our time to think over what do we really want ("if i have 9 hours to chop down a tree, i'll use 6 hour to sharpen the axe and 3 hours to chop it down" - abraham lincoln-),

Once we had it in our mind.. think it over n over again.. are we sure about it? do we really want it and wont regret it for the rest of our life? now, there it is, our final dart-point value.. its our goal now.. we will shoot it.. no matter how many time we fail, we will shoot it again n again.. untill we get it.. dont be afraid, its not to win anything.. because in life, winner is not who reach it first but the one who strive for it!

now, Aim, lock.. Shoot!!!

A Dartfull of wisdom

Ever play the game of dart? i'm very keen of it eventough im not good @ it @ all.. :D.. if we learn the game we will find that there is a lot of target slot with different value for us to shoot for. And the best thing is, the biggest value doesnt mean we're superman and the least doesnt mean that we're a joker. its depend on the final shot, which will determind who we are.. winner or loosers. (it start from 501 or 301 and the value of the shot will slash it down. and the winner is the first one who cut it down to zero).

The trick is, how to shoot to the right slot to finish it? the slot is so small, far.. and our hand will get shaky.. the dart swingging.. a little mistake will land it to other slot.. and we need to start over.

Its just like our life, it has a lot of choices for us to choose for.. and most of it is not a wrong choices @ all!! so how should we choose?

-to be continued-

p/s: i had a better tought this morning, but i dont know where had it gone.. haha.